Showing posts with label spirituality. Show all posts
Showing posts with label spirituality. Show all posts

Monday, August 10, 2015

The Healing Power of Northern Exposure



Recently I woke up after a sleepless night. I was in a funk, and prepared to suffer through what felt like an inevitable really bad day. I felt listless, sad and a bit lost. I wasn't sure where to turn or how to feel better.

Suddenly, my eyes lit up and I sat up in bed. Eureka! I knew what would turn things around!

I popped in my season 3 DVD of the early 90's TV show Northern Exposure. After only one episode I was laughing through tears and had a fresh, new clarity on things. I put on the coffee and began calling friends and family, making plans and setting aside petty grievances.

I was cured.


                                       Dr. Joel Fleishman gets primal on Northern Exposure


The premise of the show is simple enough.  Lifetime New Yorker and newly minted M.D. Joel Fleishman is sent -- against his will -- to a tiny town in the wilds of Alaska to work in a rural clinic in order to pay back his medical school loans.  Suddenly stripped of every modern convenience and diversion that the Big Apple has to offer,  bare bones Cicely may as well be jail to our Joel.



City boy Joel is not happy to be in Cicely. Joel loves Zabars, New York bagels, golf, the Atlantic Monthly and a good cappuccino.



Life is slow in Cicely. VEEERY slow.  Joel goes through the five stages of death as he fights, kicks, screams and finally howls at the moon in desperation at the prospect of wasting years of his hard fought youth in this tiny, backwater way station miles and miles from anywhere. He can't understand why anyone would choose to live in this dreary place.

Finally, after several episodes, he begrudgingly (as we all must when we are stuck in a situation not of our choosing) gives up, accepts his fate and settles in. The occupants of the town are mostly Native Americans and a few refugees of the lower 48 who have found a different way of life, far from modern America. Many are running from something...looking for freedom and a fresh start.

At first glance, Cicely IS a dreary place. Depressing. Distressed old buildings line the main drag. Nothing's been updated for years and years. Peeling paint and old wallpaper line the mismatched walls of the doctor's office.  Nothing appears fresh and new anywhere.

But then, one by one, you get to know the people.

There's Ed, the local native American teenager who was abandoned by his parents and raised by the local tribe.



Ed Chigliak loves Woody Allen, Marty Scorcese and Ingmar Bergman,  and dreams of making his own films one day


There's Maurice Minnifield, a former astronaut and minor celebrity, who left Oklahoma to start a new life in Alaska.




The entrepreneur Maurice dreams of luring big money to the "Alaskan Riviera" from the lower 48 with hotels, resorts, golf courses and hunting lodges. Back in the states there are many who are richer and more famous than him, but here in Cicely,  he's the richest -- and the only famous -- man in town.  He's at the top of the heap and he likes it like that. He also loves the finer things in life, including great wine, art and show tunes. 


                                        There's Ruth Ann, owner of the general store.



Ruth Ann headed north in 1971 with nothing but 800 dollars in her wallet after her husband died. Somehow she ended up in Cicely and never left. She loves bingo, hunting and the films of Louie Malle.



There's Chris Stephens, morning DJ and radio storyteller/philosopher on KBHR, the local radio station owned by Maurice.




Chris was raised in Wheeling, West Virginia by an alcoholic father.  He loves Walt Whitman, Joseph Campbell, Jung, Proust, Willie Nelson, Nietzche and Jack London. He's a sculptor, lives in a tiny trailer, bathes in the lake, and may -- or may not -- be running from the law. 


There's bush pilot Maggie O'Connell.



Maggie grew up pampered in Gross Point, Michigan, the daughter of a GM executive. Maggie's tortured by the fact that her last 7 boyfriends in Alaska have all died sudden, violent deaths -- including the most recent one who was crushed by a satellite that fell from the stratosphere. She's a gourmet cook and loves the poetry of Edna St. Vincent Millay. 


There's Joel's office receptionist, Marilyn Whirlwind.




Marilyn infuriates the NYC raised Joel, as she is a young woman of very few words. Filled with native wisdom, she rarely speaks and quietly exudes non-verbal, non-judgmental wisdom. She is the textbook definition of "guileless" and is completely comfortable in her own skin. Naturally, this drives Joel crazy. Marilyn raises ostriches, and she loves knitting, dancing, doing laundry and reading Joel's Sharper Image catalogs.



Lastly there's Cicely's one happy couple -- Holling and Shelley, who run The Brick. It's the only bar/restaurant in town, and the perpetual gathering place for Cicilians. With it's comfortable atmosphere and perhaps a Bob Dylan tune lilting out of the juke box, it's a metaphorical and literal shelter from the storm (or should I say, blizzard). There's no sadness that a smile from the lovely waitress Shelley or a relaxed game of pool won't soothe at least a little.



Holling is a man among men, honest and hardworking. He gave up hunting bears for nature photography,  and he loves camping.  Shelley's into ice hockey, fluffy slippers and Bon Jovi. 


Each of these characters is, except for Maurice,  completely removed from the rat race of modern America. They drive old cars that need paint jobs, and they buy their clothes at thrift stores. Their simple homes are filled with mismatched dinnerware, framed paint-by-numbers pastoral scenes -- lovingly created -- and gently used but well cared for furniture.

In short, they've given up the trappings of materialism.

What's scary to most of us is it's these very things -- nice clothes, houses, cars -- which we hide behind. They're all part of an eloborate mask we've created which shields us as we compete in an ever accelerating race of ego-driven achievement and accumulation of stuff.

Equally alarming is the fact that in Cicely, there's no TV, no internet. They have VCRs where they watch classic movies from Ruth Ann's video rental wall at the general store, and that's about it. 

How do they survive without going crazy? 

It's hard to pin down. 

The characters go through tough times, loneliness, depression and malaise -- especially during the months of total darkness that is the Alaskan winter. Week after week, we watch rapt as they seek ways to deal with these emotions that we all feel at one time or another.

Chris in the Morning, the radio show, is the pulse of the town. Chris reads from the classics, he plays the best music from all genres, he tells stories and tries to find the meaning of it all. He explores everything: loneliness, the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principal, existentialism, good vs. evil, poetry, the laws of attraction, wildness, quantum physics,  art and beauty, the nature of consciousness -- and delves into myths and stories from cultures far and wide. 

His radio show is the soundtrack to life in Cicely, lilting in the background in every home and business. His searching, dark yet hopeful and optimistic take on life sets the tone for life in the town, and for the gentle lessons of the show. 



One particularly dark, dreary winter, Chris shook himself and the town out of their funk with a surprise light sculpture which he lovingly built using bits and pieces of lamps, neon signs and twinkly lights from all over town.


Humor and whimsy enter the dialog via hilarious and entertaining peripheral characters who come and go through the years. There's Leonard the Shaman,  Adam the genius gourmet cook who may, or may not, have worked for the CIA, and his brilliant but hypochondriacal wife. There's the by-the-book Officer Semansky (she's the only law-enforcement officer for 250 miles) and Mike the allergic-to-the-world lawyer who lives in a completely sterile geodesic dome. 




25 years ahead of it's time, there's Eric and Ron who buy a bed and breakfast, marry and settle in Cicely. When former Marine Ron meets the somewhat homophobic military man/astronaut/Alpha male Maurice for the first time, without skipping a beat Ron mutters "Semper Fi," with a wry smile, pats a confused Maurice on the shoulder and walks off with Eric.

Northern Exposure is also a modern masterpiece of Magical Realism. Dream sequences flow through nearly episode, unmasking fears and fantasies. There are demons and spirit guides, talking trees, humans reincarnated as dogs, the Flying Man, people dreaming each other's dreams, the healing power of the Aurora Borealis. Or not. Like the best Magical Realism of Gabriel Garcia Marquez, it's all done in a whimsical way, where beauty, reality, and magic blur together. 

Kinda like life.

Mainly, I think, the show is a meditation on how to deal with loneliness. Most of the characters live alone, and have chosen to come to the wilds of Alaska -- alone. Family and friends pass through and then return to the states, romances flourish and die, friendships shear apart and sheepily reattach as they realize how much they rely on each other in this wild place.

They have profound conversations deep into the night about the nature of existence, why we're here and why we do the things we do.  They banter about through the ins and outs of Native American, Russian, Korean, Catholic, African myths and cultures -- and especially Jewish ones, which is Joel's journey. 

They laugh, they play chess, they cook and share meals together, they fish and hunt for days in the wild. They contemplate life and death through the lens of film, music and the printed word. And mostly, they treat one another with a kind hearted gentleness -- a good spiritedness which comes from knowing how dangerous and wild the world really is. They know how much they need each other.

But it's never, ever syrupy sweet, or pretentious, or preachy. Don't ask me how they do it. They just do. 

Countless TV comedies render themselves to watching and rewatching each episode, over and over, sometimes hundreds of times over a lifetime in syndication. Seinfeld, Sex and the City and I Love Lucy spring to mind.

But TV dramas, no matter how high quality, don't tend to hold up in the long run in syndication. I think the primary reason is they tend to look very dated. Miami Vice is a prime example. We loved watching it in the 1980's. But to watch it now, the music, the clothes, the hair -- yikes. Excruciating and unwatchable in 2015.



TV's Moonlighting. So cool and fun in 1985. Now? Fuggetaboutit.


Northern Exposure, on the contrary, holds up extremely well. The producers used classic music and songs for the soundtrack from all genres and eras. The characters were not into fashion, so their hair and clothes look like what a modern day Alaskan might wear. 

Of course, the heart of the show is Joel's journey. In season one, he is stripped down to his basic humanity, clueless how to proceed without all of the trappings of modern capitalistic society. He is truly hopeless. But over the arc of the 6 seasons, he slowly learns how to rebuild his life from the inside out rather than the outside in. 

In "A-hunting We Will Go," Joel, good Jewish New Yorker that he is, waxes forcefully and loudly about the evils of hunting. "It's Killing Bambi!" he cries. After much debate amongst the townspeople, though, he has an epiphany.  He sees that since he eats meat, he's a hypocrite if he loves tearing the flesh ofp a rib with his teeth at a cookout, but is at the same time offended by the killing.  He agrees to go on a hunting trip with Chris and Holling. Once on the hunt, almost immediately he understands the attraction of shooting and killing an animal that he will then eat for survival. "It's so raw. So primal. So honest," he says. But this was before he finally got his first kill. 



After shooting his first grouse, the doctor in him kicks in when he sees that the bird is wounded but still alive. Instead of completing the deed by breaking his neck, he goes into triage mode, rushes the wounded bird to his office and performs emergency surgery to save his life. When the grouse dies, he's devastated, and confused by his conflicting emotions. But he learns.

Watching the show (yes, over and over again) has a strange therapeutic quality that I can't quite put a finger on. If you've never seen it, or barely remember it, I strongly recommend buying the DVD's or watching them on Netflix (for whatever strange reason, it's never been on streaming). But I can say from experience that spending an hour or two in the presence of these people seems to bring perspective, decrease anxiety and increase clarity and understanding.

Why ask why? Just do it.   :-) 

















Monday, May 4, 2015

Does Praying for God to Protect Us Actually Make Things Worse?


   Throughout human history, our forebearers bowed before God and asked for protection as they headed out, spear in hand, to kill a bear or to cross a body of water on a rickety sailboat. And why not? Our species has always felt compelled to believe in a deity or a higher power. Asking Him to protect us back then was pretty much all we had had in our tool box when it came to preparing for a safe undertaking.

It's also pretty easy to understand why -- before science, before we knew we lived on a round planet -- humans tended to believe in a literal heaven and hell. The sky above was the source of all that is good and holy -- the warming sun, the life-bringing water, the famous "silver lining" on the clouds at sunset.  Beautiful, right? Makes even the most hardened atheist wonder if God really does exist after all. Meanwhile, the ground below was cold and dank, the home of creepy worms and other scary, dirty rodents that would one day engulf our bodies after death. Of course God lived "up there." And the devil -- well, you know (pointing down). But now that we know we live on a tiny round planet circling an obscure star in the far edge of one of trillions of galaxies in the universe -- believing in a literal Heaven or Hell takes more of an act of faith. I'm not even sure which way is up and which is down in our impossibly grand universe!

I've been transfixed and saddened by the two devastating avalanches that have killed countless climbers and Sherpas on Mt. Everest in as many years. Everest base camp is lovingly encircled by Buddhist prayer flags, which are meant to send prayers to God and to the mountain deity with each flutter of breeze, asking for protection as they climb the mountain. The Sherpas say: "We ask the mountain to give us permission to climb her and to protect us as we do so."

Every climbing team participates with the Sherpas in a somber, sacred ceremony before ascending the slopes of the great mountain, asking for protection as the prayer flags flutter and send their entreats up the slope of the Kundu icefall.

Despite the sincere, faithful prayers for protection -- despite asking the mountain to keep them safe --  men were killed. Many, many men.

This morning I read the news of the recent Dauphin Island Regatta disaster in Mobile, Alabama, where 6 sailors lost their lives and many more boats were destroyed or lost in severe weather during the race.

Mobile Bay is where Civil War Admiral Farragut uttered the famous words "Damn the torpedoes -- full speed ahead!" in 1864. Fateful words, indeed.

The Dauphin Island Regatta is a 17 mile sailing race which, in order to complete it, finishes across open ocean. It is advertised as "...a polite dash down Mobile Bay to Dauphin Island, where the party to end all parties is held." Well. Pour me some Southern Comfort and belly up to the bar! Sounds like fun!

I've done yacht racing, and it is not uncommon for races to be cancelled due to wind and weather predictions. Why this race was not cancelled is being debated even as we speak. Everyone agrees that bad weather was predicted.

Several of the entries were Hobie Cats or small sailboats in the 20 foot range. Hobies don't even have VHF radios, let alone sophisticated weather radar mapping or wind speed indicators. And while the press release makes the race sound like just a genteel little get-together of southern gentleman, Dauphin Island is definitely out to sea, and open ocean must be crossed to get there.

I've read that the National Weather Service sent out several warnings before the race start of possible severe weather and wind gusts of 60 knots or worse.

For a Hobie Cat to head to open ocean with this weather forecast would be considered pretty insane by the average thoughtful person.

Now, I've never been to Alabama, but from what I hear, fundamentalist Christianity is very big down there. So I wouldn't be surprised if there was an official group prayer before the race, asking God to keep the sailors safe, deliver them to the finish line, and to provide "fair winds and following seas."

There is one particular verse in the New Testament that is a source of much of this trouble, I think:

"Jesus said: 'If you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain: 'Move from there to here,' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.'" -- Matthew 17:20

Yikes.

When I was young I fell into the loving arms of a large, loving church group in my hometown. I accepted Jesus into my heart, and for several years the church, my new friends, the music and the ritual provided a respite from the storm that is "the teenage years." I met my husband in those rooms, and though I have long since left the church, I still enjoy lifelong friendships with many I met there.

Once in my early 20's, though, the steely concrete bunker that was my faith began to crack and weaken. I remember well a specific incident that smashed a hammer into that bunker of faith:

After college classes one afternoon, my friend Debbie-Sue and I were praying together in a small room attached to the main church youth area. There were dozens of kids on the grounds hanging out, reading, playing ping pong, running around, etc. Debbie-Sue and I were enjoying a private prayer session together, alone in that side room, and kids kept running in and interrupting us. After it happened several irritating times, Debbie-Sue and I agreed with a gulp that we would take that leap of faith from Matthew 17 and ask God (with faith much larger and greater than that tiny mustard seed!) to keep the kids from running in and interrupting us for just five minutes. "Lord," we humbly prayed, "we ask you with our sincere faith -- to give us just 5 uninterrupted minutes to pray together, in peace. Since we ask with absolute, pure faith, we know it will be done."

About 11 seconds later, a male friend lurched the door open and burst into the room with an ear-piercing yell. I still remember the image of his open, shrieking mouth, filled with braces as menacing as sharks teeth. He quickly apologized with a shrug before bursting back out the door with a slam.  He had no idea what damage he had done.

I was crushed.

My faith in a benevolent, protecting God was all downhill after that.

I am a Christian, and I try to live life in the manner that Jesus encouraged. I don't know for sure if God exists, but like my wise husband says:

"If I live my life as if God exists, things tend to go well."

My faith is more in a God that fills our hearts with joy and love if we humble ourselves before Him and pray for compassion for others.  But that's about the extent of it.

During our thousands of miles sailing the open ocean, we faced countless dire weather predictions, equipment failures and every other risk you can think of. Never once did I pray to God to protect us.

My husband and I knew that we were completely responsible for our safety at sea. It's Thoreau's vaunted "self-reliance." We alone would make our decisions based on data, facts, and OK -- maybe our gut. And the responsibility of the outcome would also fall solely on our own heads.

Our surviving and arriving safely at our next port was completely up to us. 

Yes, this is a daunting realization -- but it's an empowering one. For it cuts away any fanciful images of a benevolent God parting the Red Sea on our behalf with a gigantic holy hand.

Most of us have today at our fingertips countless ways to scientifically gauge any risk involved in any endeavor. Why do some knowingly cast aside the science and the data and still head to sea or start a high-risk business with a shrug, muttering that it's in the Lord's hands now?

The sad result of this phenomenon is that some people take much greater risks than they would normally, because having prayed ahead of time, they insist that "The Lord will protect us."

Look, I'm not saying that intercessional praying never works. Honestly, I have no idea.

But for me, there is a saying that makes much greater sense, that rings deeply true in my heart of hearts, that I used over and over again during our travels at sea:

 "Pray to God, but row away from the rocks."






Sunday, November 17, 2013

What's Your Mind/Body/Spirit Score?



                                              Happiness: what is it, and how do I find it?


 I've posted often on the science of happiness. I know what you're thinking, scoffers, but believe me, the science of happiness is real -- and it's spectacular. ;-)


 We've all heard that life as we know it is made up of the mind, the body and the spirit. As I understand it,  our aim should be to nurture each one of these aspects -- and then, if we're lucky, we experience moments when they flow together in perfect balance --  one elegant organism of life.




                                     OK, we know about the mind, body and spirit. Now what?



       I love to analyze things and to come up with guidelines to help me attain any goals I might have. In thinking about the mind/body/spirit thing, one day it dawned on me: what if I figured out a scientific way to analyze and calculate where I am on the mind/body/spirit continuum?

     The next step I took was to see that every action I take on any given day affects either the mind, the body or the spirit positively or negatively. Many actions affect more than one of the three. But every action we takes affects our mind/body/spirit in some way.

   So I started looking at very general and obvious actions.


                                         Let's take something obviously good, like running.


    As every runner knows, running clears the mind, strengthens the body and makes your soul soar.

   So, if we applied a score for running as an activity, it would be +1 for the mind, +1 for the body and +1 for the spirit. That's 3 points total.

   Now, let's look at something negative, like smoking. Smoking is -1 for the body, and I suppose neutral for the mind and spirit. So that's a total of -1.

   There are lots of things that are good for either the mind, body and spirit. Any physical or mental activity gives you a +1 in that area.



 
       So OK, OK, I guess I have to admit that even a video game like Candy Crush Saga is good for the mind (well, it's good for the brain, anyway), as experts agree that video games can and do prevent Alzheimer's disease.  So you can give yourself a +1 there. But I might argue that excessive video game playing would give you a -1 for the soul...(there's a healthy debate to be had there, I'm sure). It's also neutral for the body. So adding up the total of the three, it adds up to a "neutral."

   And if you eat a dozen donuts in one sitting, I think we can all agree that would be bad for the mind, body and spirit. That's a -3.



Donuts = BAD. (This is not a comment on Chris Christie, by the way. I put in "eating donuts" on the Google search engine and he popped up, I swear.)

Even something passive like watching TV gets a score. If I watch an astronomy documentary on the Science Channel, that definitely gives me a +1 in the "mind" department (but I suppose it's neutral in the body and spirit categories -- unless, that is, I'm eating a dozen donuts while I'm watching).

On the rare occasion that I indulge in a Real Housewives or Kardashians program, I'd give that a "neutral" in the mind department (watching these shows may not be GOOD for your brain, but science has yet to prove that they literally fry your neurons). However, it might be a -1 in the spirit department, as increasingly I'm finding watching the behavior of these women upsetting and even a bit depressing.




Kardashians = BAD for the spirit


If you're a parent, obviously just spending time reading a book to your child gives you a big +2 points (one for mind, one for spirit).



Reading to your kids: it's a no-brainer!

And of course, for Chris and I, playing music is another big +2 point activity (1+ mind, 1+ spirit).



Music: it's a 1-2 punch!

The point of this whole exercise for me was to make me aware of the affect my daily activities have on my body, mind and spirit. Obviously if you add up all of the activities of the day, you would hope to be in the mostly positive column. If you're way in the negative, then some soul searching might be indicated.


Mostly, it's about thinking about what we're doing. Being present. Accountable. Life is short...






Wednesday, March 27, 2013

My 8 Steps to Ending Fear of Flying Forever


                           "Pray to God, but row away from the rocks. "   --  Arabic saying






    Yes, it's true. The Wimpy Cruiser used to be a very wimpy flyer. I never freaked out during the flight or anything...no planes have ever turned around on my account.

   But I used to be nervous flying. And I don't think I'm alone. And since I don't drink or take drugs (which certainly come in handy for some people in handling this little picadillo), I was left to my own devices to figure out how to settle myself down.

  Oh, you can spend hundreds of dollars for seminars which teach you how to manage the issue. I understand they mainly teach you to close your eyes just before take-off, and go to your "happy place." To basically pretend you are someplace else.

  Well, frankly, this always seemed silly to me. There's no denying where we are, folks.

"We're leaving on a jet plane! Don't know when we'll be back again...Oh, babe, don't let us crash..."      :-/

  During one pre-flight check a few years ago, as my heart began to pound with the scary, mechanical noises and jolts that shook the cabin as they loaded the luggage below, I came upon an epiphany. I realized immediately that I had the answer to my problem! My own 8 step plan became immediately evident to me. I was cured!

 Here's the program:

 1) Instead of DENYING that you are on an airplane (because really, who are we fooling here, anyway. Not you!) and going to your "happy place," scratch that. Your happy place is no longer a white sandy beach with palm trees gently wafting above. Your happy place is on that damn plane sitting in that damn seat!

 2) Forget about trying to get an aisle seat, the better to never get a peek out the window and perpetuate the lie that you are not on the plane at all. Go for the WINDOW seat, baby;

 3) As you sit in the window seat, look out the window at the engines, at the wings. Observe the crew preparing the plane. Don't close your eyes. Participate in the process;

4) This is a big one: you need to completely accept that you are not in control. The pilot, crew, air traffic controllers, mechanics who last worked on the plane --- THESE are the people controlling your fate. So just give it up. If the plane's going down, it's going down. And there's nothing YOU can do about it.

 Now, at first this thought is horrifying. But once you really absorb it, it's kind of a relief. YOU HAVE NO CONTROL. Let the professionals worry about it. Just sit back and enjoy the flight;

(And just a little note about God here: I never said you shouldn't pray. Nothing in this plan precludes praying. Go right ahead.)

5) Rely on statistics. Every day millions of people fly in jetliners and crashes are less and less frequent every year;

6) Now, while you may not have any control in whether the plane crashes or not, in the case of a crash or a hard landing, you may need to save yourself. So for the love of God, instead of going off to happy land while the stewardess (sorry, "flight attendant") gives you instructions how to exit the plane and safe your life -- be original and actually LISTEN to her.  Take out the cardboard directions in the back of the seat in front of you (the ones you always ignore), read them, and figure out how to get out of that plane as fast as possible, should the unthinkable become necessary.

In short: find the closest exit, and count the number of seat rows to the exit. Now that you have a plan in case the worst happens -- you can relax!  :-) People underestimate the calm feeling that comes over you when you realize that, per the Serenity Prayer, you have actually controlled what you CAN, and "turned over" the rest;

7) OK, now the plane is backing out, and you're heading out to the runway. This is often the most nervous time...waiting...waiting...waiting. For entertainment, stand up and look back at all of those pathetic sacks, sitting there with their eyes closed, pulses racing, trying to fool us into thinking that they're asleep while they're really frantically trying to go to their happy place.

 Pity them. There is nothing you can do for these folks. Wish them well and move on.

 Now. Sit back down and fasten your seatbelt. You're in the for the ride of your life!

 Think of yourself as an astronaut during the countdown of a rocket into outer space. Feel the revving of the engines. Marvel at the amazing, powerful technology! Get into it! You're so lucky to be here! Think how many humans never even get the chance to go up in a jetliner. But not YOU! You're one of the fortunate ones!

 8) OK, we're hurtling down the runway now. Make yourself LOOK OUT THE WINDOW. Watch the whole thing in amazement and excited awe. Try to have sympathy for the guy next to you, sweating bullets and cramming his eyes shut in panic. He's missing the whole thing!

  Here's the best part. FEEL the centrifical force as the jet hurtles forward. Be amazed at the power which is pressing you into the back of your seat. Look outside again. Smile at yourself.

  3. 2. 1. Liftoff!

   As the jet lifts off, look down as far as you can. Press your face and palms against the glass as a 5 year old would.  Again, marvel at the sight -- at the simply amazing fact that you are even here doing this at all!

   The takeoff and first few moments of flight may be the most horrifying, but they are also the most beautiful. Watch the land and ocean spread out below you. Watch the sunrise and the clouds as you slice through them. It's a spectacular sight -- and lucky you: you get to see it, in person!

  So -- that's pretty much the program. FULL IMMERSION. It worked for me like a charm and I apply it every time I fly.

  Now, this program also comes in handy during my sailing adventures as well. For instance, during our  one night passage to Isla Mujeres, Mexico from Belize, we experienced some big wind and even bigger waves and swells.

  So instead of going down into the cabin and being bounced around the interior of the boat like a ping pong ball, trying to "deny" that I'm out at sea in the middle of nowhere being battered all over hell -- I choose to place myself at the highest, most visible spot in the cockpit -- face forward, and ride Espiritu like the bucking bronco she is.





                          Not only does this help squash my fear, it also eases seasickness. (Just a tip).




           You can see the growing wave heading right towards Espiritu in this photo. These were big ones. I had to trust that Espiritu would propel over the top of this one, just like she has every other one of the thousands of waves she has sailed over during her 30 years at sea.

      How fortunate I was to be here, experiencing the overwhelming power of the sea.


      So, give my 8 point plan a try. Let me know how it works!

     Chris and I remain anchored at Isla Mujeres, Mexico. We'll be looking for a weather window to make the 3 day sail north to the Florida Keys.


    Hasta luego, my fellow happy travelers...   :-)



Tuesday, September 11, 2012

A California September 11th



A California September 11th

11 years ago today Chris and I turned on the TV news as we did every morning at 6AM. A plane had hit the North Tower of the World Trade Center. Without a cloud in the sky, it seemed clear to me that this was not accidental. We continued to watch, silently. We saw the second plane bank, throttle up and plow into the South Tower live, as did millions of others. Shaking, a small scream...

I immediately jumped out of bed. They're flying planes into buildings. Who did I know who might be about to step onto a plane?  I called my baby sister, who answered the phone with a bleary "Hello?" 

"Where's your husband."

"Uh...Cleveland?"

"I'm hanging up. Call him and tell him not to step on a plane."

"Why? What's wrong?"

"Just do it. Turn on the TV. Call Fred and tell him not to step on a plane. I'm hanging up."

OK. Powerless. What else can I do? Nothing. I turned to my husband, held his face and whispered: "No matter what happens, we will be OK. We are survivors. We will make it. Together. Come what may." 

Chris went to work and I watched the first tower fall on live TV. I felt for Diane Sawyer and Katie Couric, trying bravely to maintain composure while certainly fearing for their own lives and those of their friends and families on the mortally wounded Isle of Manhattan. 

When the second tower fell, I could take no more and turned off the television to find myself alone in the silence. Unclear what to do, I went to the window and opened the blinds. 2 feet away, a belted kingfisher sat on the fence. He looked right at me and cocked his head, as if to tell me...what? 



                                                        Belted Kingfisher


Birdwatching has always been such a comfort to me for the simple reason that whatever human crisis I may be going through at that moment, the birds remind me that the world keeps spinning. The sun falls and will rise again. And the birds will go on chirping, singing, and foraging for food. As must we.

At work people brought little TV's and plugged them in at their desks. While we tried to be productive,  we murmured and occasionally gathered round one of the screens and watched quietly.

Starting in the afternoon, fighter jets began circling low over Orange County and the coast every few minutes on patrol, as we have many military bases and defense companies within our borders which were potential targets. This should have been reassuring, but the sound of a jet flying close and low every hour was not exactly a comfort, considering the fact that by that time we had watched the news replay the tape of the jets flying into the buildings over and over throughout the day and into the evening, and of course, noone knew when it would end or where they might attack next. 

That night I had college choir. Throughout the class, those damn jets kept making low passes over the college again and again.

As fortune would have it, the piece we were working on at the time was Haydn's Gloria. The movement we practiced on that night: Kyrie Eleison. Kyrie Eleison roughly translates from the Latin as "God help us.There, on the night of September 11th, 35 frail humans sang "God help us" as one, over and over again.

I've often thought since how grateful I was to be in that place at that time -- singing those humble words as a group prayer, a mantra, a collective plea. No answers. Only silent yearning. 

10 years later, I have little to add except we as humans seem as frail as ever, so on this anniversary I find myself saying Kyrie Eleison. Kyrie Eleison. Kyrie Eleison...

Saturday, December 24, 2011

Feliz Navidad from Mexico!


Feliz Navidad from Mexico!


We pulled anchor from Punta de Mita and motored south 10 miles to La Cruz de Huanacaxtle in Banderas Bay.

We've been told that this little seaside town is the sailors/cruisers mecca, and bit by bit, we're discovering why. There is a lively marina here, but we are quite happy out in the comfortable anchorage with a couple of dozen other sailboats.

It's Christmas Eve, and we're fully immersed in Christmas in Mexico.  A group of us went caroling a couple of evenings ago, and evidence of the season is all around us.  Chris and I have been playing carols together on the boat.


A colorful and happily tacky Mexican Christmas display


Those who complain about the political correctness of the states and the fact that "Happy Holidays" has replaced "Merry Christmas" stateside would be quite happy, I think, experiencing a Mexican Christmas.


Christmas is everywhere in Mexico



Who needs noble firs when we have palms to decorate?

Mexico is a very Catholic country, and nativity scenes decorate every town square. One interesting thing about nativity scenes in Mexico: if you look for baby Jesus in the display in the days before Christmas, you will find that He is not there. The Mexican tradition is to not place the baby Jesus into the manger until Christmas day.



Nativity scene in a small La Cruz market, minus the baby Jesus

We attended a Catholic service in San Blas one Sunday morning, and were surprised to see that 80% of the worshipers in the packed church were children under the age of 12. The other 15% were their mothers, gently shushing the children who wiggled, whispered and giggled in the wooden pews as the priest read the liturgy.

There were only a handful of men, standing in the back of the church.

It appears that women are the driving force of the Catholic church here in Mexico, which helps explain why the Virgin Mary is loved with such devotion here.


A Mexican home with Christmas decorations surrounding an image of Mary


The Mexican Christmas tradition is to decorate the home with a tree, lights, manger scene, and most importantly, an image of the Virgin Mary.



Holiday display with Mother Mary overlooking all


It appears Mary is even more important than Jesus here in Mexico. Life for Mexican women is not an easy one. With many children and hard work filling each day, I think these women can relate to Mary.



A home Christmas display with Mary front and center


As Mexican women see it, I think, Mary fulfilled her difficult mission humbly and without fanfare. She never complained. She simply followed God's direction to her, quietly, with a gentle loving faith that all would be well. In short, I think Mexican women "get" Mary. They relate to her, and they feel that she is in their corner.


A home Christmas display, with Mary front and center, and Jesus off to the side


And since women do most of the decorating, Mary, the patron saint of women, gets top billing.

We are planning on going to a Catholic Christmas Eve service tonight. Although it will be in Spanish, I'm sure the emotion and beauty of this night will come through.


Another charming Mexican home display



Nationalism doesn't just happen in the U.S. This "Viva Mexico" Christmas banner is the equivalent of a "God Bless America" Christmas display in the U.S.:





Christmas in nearby Bustiamos


The distinctive feel of a Mexican Christmas


                          Some sailors have decorated their boats with Christmas cheer.
                                    I'm ashamed to say that Espiritu is not one of them.


Christmas display aboard Island Bound

                                  Our excuse for not decorating the boat is we don't have adequate
                           storage space for decorations. That's our story, and we're sticking to it.  ;-P



Solar powered Christmas lights


                  Tomorrow, there is a sailor's gathering at Philos for Christmas Dinner here in La Cruz.
                                  All of our new friends (and temporary family) will be there.


Humble La Cruz Christmas tree

We will miss our stateside friends and family in the next 48 hours, but if you think of us, know that we are having an amazing experience here amongst kindred spirits.




                              So, Feliz Navidad, with love, from Chris and Liz in Mexico.